When I think about love, I think of the happily ever after stories. Falling in love, running away together, white picket fence, and life is a dream. Falling in love is amazing and awesome! We are naturally excited about knowing the other person and spending more time with them. I remember when my wife and I started dating. We spent so much time together. There was nothing that she could do that was wrong. She was perfect! Me on the other hand is another story. I was still struggling through life. But I always made sure that I acted right when I got around her. I made sure that I had nice clothes on. I made sure that everything was perfect. I did whatever I could to make sure that she saw the best parts of me.
There are times that we have a Hollywood view of love. It’s a perfect love story and everything falls right into place. But I have never met anyone that has had a perfect love story. Many times there are struggles, strife, and stress that encroach on our relationships. I almost wonder if it was designed like that. As if God intended for imperfect people to be in relationship with other imperfect people to force us to learn and grow. Something that I have learned in life is: your weaknesses are other people’s strengths. It doesn’t mean that you are going to agree on methodology all of the time, but it does mean that you need people to help you where you are not strong.
This leads me to the title of this blog: Love is Blind. When I think about the love I have learned about from the Bible, I am challenged:
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT
That is a tough pill to swallow. Wow! How much we have yet to learn. Something that catches my attention the most in all of that is: “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” What do you do when someone you love is going through a tough season? What about when they are not changing? Or how about if they don’t want to accept your observations or assistance? Will you choose to love them anyway?
I believe that if we really love the way the Bible encourages us to, we will be patient and not give up. We will always see the best in people, even when they are not doing the best they could. Just because you see something in someone’s life, does not mean you need to say something. As my Pastor Brandon Barber (Elevate Church) would say, “Love and Time will change anyone’s life”. I agree with this wholeheartedly. Love must be blind for us to love at all. It is through the good and the bad. It must endure through whatever mistakes or shortcomings someone may have. It is constantly encouraging them to be the person that they are called to be.
I have been guilty of not loving the way I should have or how I needed to in certain circumstances. That is why I believe that God is speaking to me to make some adjustments. To challenge the way I love and why I love. I want to love blindly. I want to be better at loving the unlovely, the hurting, the broken, my family, my friends, the world, in such a way that change truly comes to their lives. I want God to use me as an instrument of love to all that I come across in this life. That is all that really matters anyway: love God, love people. I will write again on love soon, but my challenge to anyone who may read this blog is to love blindly. Don’t go looking for problems and allowing those things to keep you from a life filled with love. I realize that there are different seasons of love and how love looks, but I want to be a person who looks at people and truly loves them with a God love. I challenge you to take the love journey with me and stretch outside of your comfort zone. It will take daily forgiveness and daily time with the One who is Love to be successful in this journey. Will you take the next step of faith and go on this journey with me?